Even in your rightness about a subject, when you try to push your rightness toward another who disagrees, no matter how right you are, it causes more pushing against. In other words, it isn't until you stop pushing that any real allowing of what you want can take place.--- Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Boston, MA on Saturday, May 17th, 2003
I saw this today and realized how true it was. I am so, so pushy but I never relax and try to make what I am saying make sense. It always comes out in some language that doesn't get to the other person. Then the person becomes resistant because I am pushing the issue. It depends though. If its about me not getting what I want, I am straight up pushy and struggle to be on point. However, if it is in general or some concept, and/or work-related. I am calm. Sometimes I even calmly walk away and give up when I see no resistance. I have found that to work more than anything. I get a chance for the person to think about it and come back to me with their reasoning adjusted.
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